"I have had a boyfriend for over two years. He wants to have sex without a condom and says he will pull out before he ejaculates. The other day my boyfriend and I were fooling around a lot but we did not go all the way. He ejaculated near my vagina but that was it. Is it possible to get pregnant without having sex?"
Well the first thing any doctor will say is ANYTHING is possible. Basically if any semen was near your vagina, it is possible for you to get pregnant. It only takes a very small amount of semen to enter your vagina and make it to your uterus for you to get pregnant.
If you are having sex or even almost having sex, you can get pregnant. Anytime there is ejaculation and semen around, it is possible that you could get pregnant. Using protection even during foreplay can help reduce your risk of becoming pregnant.
Many women believe that if they are not having intercourse with vaginal penetration, then they do not need to take precautions. This is just not true. You are susceptible to pregnancy as well as sexually transmitted diseases if you are being this intimate with your partner.
There are many women who say they did not have full intercourse and now they are pregnant, as well as women who contract sexually transmitted diseases such as gonorrhea, Chlamydia, vaginal warts, HIV and AIDS. If you are going to be sexually intimate with your partner in any way, you are exposing yourself to these possibilities.
For years, it has been argued about whether the penis actually has to be in the vagina during ejaculation in order for the woman to get pregnant. This goes for the often-tried birth control method of "pulling out" as well. Men release a pre-ejaculation fluid that contains sperm. This pre-ejaculation does not offer the man the same sensations as regular ejaculation, so the man does not pull his penis out during the pre-ejaculation. This is how many women get pregnant even though their partner's penis was not in their vagina during the ejaculation.
If you think you may be pregnant you should take a home pregnancy test as soon as you have missed your period. Or if you want to know the results earlier, you can visit your doctor or a local family planning clinic.
If you find out later that you are pregnant with an unplanned pregnancy, it can be very scary. Today there are many options available if you have an unplanned pregnancy. You can visit Lifetime Adoption for more information on adoption, and to chat live. In today's adoption world, you can choose how involved you want to be with the adoptive family. Open adoption offers women the option of finding a forever family for their baby, while maintaining contact through letters and pictures.
Mardie Caldwell, C.O.A.P. is a Certified Open Adoption Practitioner, an award winning author of 2 adoption books AdoptingOnline.com and Adoption: Your Step-by-Step Guide. Mardie is also the talk show host of Let's Talk Adoption.com with Mardie Caldwell and the founder of Lifetime Adoption in 1986. She travels and speaks nationwide on adoption topics, family topics, infertility and writing. She has been quoted in and consulted for Parenting and Adoption magazines and has appeared on CNN, CBS, ABC, BBC, NBC, and Fox. Featured in Parade Magazine, Caldwell is an adoptive mother living in Northern California.