What is Open or Semi Open Adoption?
In an open adoption, the birth parent may choose the adoptive family
themselves, rather than having an agency choose the family for
them. You may decide on the amount of contact you wish to have.
Some women want letters and photos, others want visits or phone
calls after the adoption and some want no contact at all. The choice
is up to you and your adoptive family.You may choose the family
that best meets your needs and those of your child or we will select
a family for you if you prefer. You and the adoptive parents have
a variety of options.
Why do women choose adoption?
Most women choose adoption because they love their child and realize
that they are not ready to be the kind of parent they need to be
at this time in their life. Others realize that there are unique
reasons in their life that are preventing then from being able to
parent their child. We realize that choosing adoption for your child
can be a very difficult decision. We want to help you make the right
decision and help you explore parenting and adoption and let you
determine what is right for you both at this time in your life.
It takes courage and strength to be able to make this important
How are adoptive families screened?
Adoptive families are screened and pre-qualified. A licensed social
worker will conduct a thorough home study evaluation and visit the
adoptive family's home in their state. This includes a background
check, medical evaluations, financial and FBI screening. You are
assured that your baby will be raised within a loving and safe family
environment. You will be able to speak to families also to determine
whom you feel you want to adopt and raise your child.
Is this safe & legal?
Yes, open adoption is legal. Your adoption can be completed as an
independent adoption or a designated agency adoption. The process
is normally simple and confidential. All adoption laws are adhered
to, allowing you peace of mind that your adoption is safe, legal
and ethical. An attorney in your state will be provided to you in
advance if you have additional questions. All legal work is conducted
by a qualified adoption attorney and or a social worker.
Are there any costs to me?
There is no cost to you as a birth parent. Adoptive parents pay
for legal fees, reasonable pregnancy-related expenses, medical bills
not covered by insurance, consulting and counseling fees.
What if I go into labor, can you work with me
from the hospital?
Yes, we often receive calls from the hospital. We can have a family
available for you within hours. In most states, the adoptive family
will be able to take the baby home from the hospital, avoiding foster care.
We have found that most birth mothers want to be sure that their
baby can start bonding with their adoptive family right away. We
are open for emergencies on all weekends, holidays and through the
night. We have families that can travel within a few hours nationwide.
Can I select a family from a state other than my own?
The beauty of the internet is the access to a large variety of qualified
families that will meet your specifications nationwide or if you
prefer we have families in most states or can find some families
for your state.
My child is older; do you have families that
are interested in older children?
We have loving families seeking children of all ages and races.
It is our policy not to separate siblings, so we work hard to find
just the right family for you to interview for the adoption. You
will be able to decide on the type of contact you wish after the
What age range are most of your birth mothers?
We have birth mothers from 12 yrs old to their mid 40's. For some
women this is their first child and others have children. Some of
our birth parents are married. Most birth parents love their child
and want to provide them with the best home and future that they
can and adoption has been a loving option for many.
Is it selfish to consider adoption?
No, adoption can be one of the most loving decisions you make for
your child. It takes a great deal of love and maturity to know that
raising a child can be difficult and that love is not enough to
provide what a child needs to thrive. Even with the help of families
and friends, the task can be difficult. Often family and friends
are there at the beginning, then when times get more difficult you
are on your own. It is important to realize that what ever your
decision is that you are ultimately going to be the primary caregiver
and the person that will need to take care of your child. This can
be a sacrifice for many years to come. Many women realize the time
is not right for them to parent and that adoption is the most sensible
and most important decision they will make for their child and their
Some of my friends say I should keep my baby
and that children belong with their birth parents, what should I
You will need to consider honestly where you are in your life now
and if you are ready for parenting at this time. This doesn't mean
you are bad, it means you know that you are not at a time in your
life that parenting and raising a child is in the best interest
for you or your child. It is easy for friends to make comments when
they have not been in your position. The only person that can make
this decision is you. You want to consider honestly your options
of parenting and adoption before the baby is born. We have a number
of other birth mothers you can speak to if you would like to find
out how they handled their pregnancy. Just ask us.